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DSM

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Since we are on the topic, and there is some interest on the Author, am posting an excerpt from Anthony Robbins book - Awaken the Giant Within. If of interest, the link to the free pdf is given at the bottom of the article. Caveat : To change our world, we must first begin by changing ourselves first. And that means questioning our thinking, idealogy, beliefs - which is a difficult thing to do.... as limits on what we are and can be are set by thru conditioning of our parents, teachers, friends, family, society etc and can be difficult to let go. But the other option is to hold on to status quo..... exist or to live a life of potential, is in our hands..... and a teacher, author, guru or a guide can only point to the way. But it is we who have to make the hard and difficult journey......

DREAMS OF DESTINY

A consistent man believes in destiny, a capricious man in chance - BENJAMIN DISRAELI

We all have dreams... We all want to believe deep down in our souls that we have a special gift, that we can make a difference, that we can touch others in a special way, and that we can make the world a better place. At one time in our lives, we all had a vision for the quality of life that we desire and deserve. Yet, for many of us, those dreams have become so shrouded in the frustrations and routines of daily life that we no longer even make an effort to accomplish them. For far too many, the dream has dissipated — and with it, so has the will to shape our destinies. Many have lost that sense of certainty that creates the winner's edge. My life's quest has been to restore the dream and to make it real, to get each of us to remember and use the unlimited power that lies sleeping within us all.

I´ll never forget the day it really hit me that I was truly living my dream. I was flying my jet helicopter from a business meeting in Los Angeles, traveling to Orange County on the way to one of my seminars. As I flew over the city of Glendale, I suddenly recognized a large building, and I stopped the helicopter and hovered above it. As I looked down, I realized this was the building that I'd worked in as a janitor a mere twelve years ago!

In those days, I had been concerned whether my 1960 Volkswagen would hang together for the 30-minute trip to work, my life had been focused on how I was going to survive; I had felt fearful and alone. But that day, as I hovered there in the sky, I thought, "What a difference a decade can make!" I did have dreams back then, but at the time, it seemed they'd never be realized. Today, though, I've come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy. As I continued my flight south along the coastal route, I spotted dolphins playing with the surfers in the waves below. It's a sight that my wife, Becky, and I treasure as one of life's special gifts. Finally, I reached Irvine. Looking below, I was a little disturbed when I saw that the off ramp to my seminar was jammed with bumper-to bumper traffic for more than a mile. 1 thought to myself, "Boy, I hope whatever else is going on tonight gets started soon so that the people coming to my seminar arrive on time."

But as I descended to the helipad, I began to see a new picture: thousands of people being held back by security where I was just about to land. Suddenly I began to grasp the reality. The traffic jam had been caused by people going to my event! Although we had expected approximately 2,000 attendees, I was facing a crowd of 7,000—in an auditorium that would hold only 5,000! When I walked into the arena from the landing pad, I was surrounded by hundreds of people who wanted to give me a hug or tell me how my work had positively impacted their lives.

The stories they shared with me were incredible. One mother introduced me to her son who had been labeled "hyperactive" and "learning disabled." Utilizing the principles of state management taught in this book, she was not only able to get him off the drug Ritalin, but they had also since been transferred to California where her son had been retested and evaluated at the level of genius! You should have seen his face as she shared with me his new label. A gentleman talked about how he had freed himself from cocaine using some of the Success Conditioning techniques you'll learn in this book. A couple in their mid-fifties shared with me that, after fifteen years of marriage, they had been on the brink of divorce until they learned about personal rules. A salesman told me how his monthly income had jumped from $2,000 to over $12,000 in a mere six months, and an entrepreneur related that he had increased corporate revenues by over $3 million in eighteen months by applying the principles of quality questions and emotional management. A lovely young woman showed me a picture of her former self, having lost fifty-two pounds by applying the principles of leverage that are detailed in this book.

I was touched so deeply by the emotions in that room that I got choked6 up, and at first I couldn't speak. As I looked out on my audience and saw 5,000 smiling, cheering, loving faces, in that moment I realized that I am living my dream! What a feeling to know that beyond a shadow of a doubt I had the information, strategies, philosophies, and skills that could assist any one of these people in empowering themselves to make the changes they desired most! A flood of images and emotions flowed over me. I began to remember an experience I'd had only a few years before, sitting in my 400-square-foot bachelor apartment in Venice, California, all alone and crying as I listened to the lyrics of a Neil Diamond song: "I am, I said, to no one there. And no one heard at all, not even the chair. I am, I cried. I am, said I. And I am lost, and I can't even say why, leavin' me lonely still." I remembered feeling like my life didn't matter, as if the events of the world were controlling me. I also remember the moment my life changed, the moment I finally said, "I've had it! I know I'm much more than I'm demonstrating mentally, emotionally, and physically in my life." I made a decision in that moment which was to alter my life forever. I decided to change virtually every aspect of my life. I decided I would never again settle for less than I could be. Who would have guessed that this decision would bring me to such an incredible moment?

I gave my all at the seminar that night, and when I left the auditorium, crowds of people followed me to the helicopter to see me off. To say I was deeply moved by the experience would be an understatement. A tear slid down my cheek as I thanked my Creator for these wonderful gifts. As I lifted off the grass and ascended into the moonlight, I had to pinch myself. Could this be real? Am I the same guy who eight years ago was struggling, frustrated, feeling alone and incapable of making my life work? Fat, broke, and wondering if I could even survive? How could a young kid like me with nothing but a high school education have created such dramatic changes?

My answer is simple: I learned to harness the principle I now call concentration of power. Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives. Controlled focus is like a laser beam that can cut through anything that seems to be stopping you. When we focus consistently on improvement in any area, we develop unique distinctions on how to make that area better. One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power.

Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular. In fact, I believe most people fail in life simply because they major in minor things. I believe that one of life's major lessons is learning to understand what makes us do what we do. What shapes human behavior? The answers to this question provide critical keys to shaping your own destiny.

My entire life has been continually driven by a singular, compelling focus: What makes the difference in the quality of people's lives? How is it that so often people from such humble beginnings and devastating backgrounds manage in spite of it all to create lives that inspire us? Conversely, why do many of those born into privileged environments, with every resource for success at their fingertips, end up fat, frustrated, and often chemically addicted? What makes some people's lives an example and others' a warning? What is the secret that creates passionate, happy, and grateful lives in many, while for others the refrain might be, "Is that all there is?"

My own magnificent obsession began with some simple questions: "How can I take immediate control of my life? What can I do today that can make a difference—that could help me and others to shape our destinies? How can I expand, learn, grow, and share that knowledge with others in a meaningful and enjoyable way?"

At a very early age, I developed a belief that we're all here to contribute something unique, that deep within each of us lies a special gift. You see, I truly believe we all have a sleeping giant within us. Each of us has a talent, a gift, our own bit of genius just waiting to be tapped. It might be a talent for art or music. It might be a special way of relating to the ones you love. It might be a genius for selling or innovating or reaching out in your business or your career. I choose to believe that our Creator doesn't play favorites, that we've all been created unique, but with equal opportunities for experiencing life to the fullest. I decided many years ago that the most important way I could spend my life would be to invest it in something that would outlast it. I decided that somehow I must contribute in some way that would live on long after I was gone.

Today, I have the incredible privilege of sharing my ideas and feelings with literally millions of people through my books, tapes, and television shows. I've personally worked with over a quarter of a million people in the last few years alone. I've assisted members of Congress, CEOs, presidents of companies and countries, managers and mothers, salespeople, accountants, lawyers, doctors, psychiatrists, counselors, and professional athletes. I've worked with phobics, the clinically depressed, people with multiple personalities, and those who thought they had no personality. Now I have the unique good fortune of sharing the best of what I've learned with you, and for that opportunity I am truly grateful and excited.

Through it all, I've continued to recognize the power individuals have to change virtually anything and everything in their lives in an instant. I've learned that the resources we need to turn our dreams into reality are within us, merely waiting for the day when we decide to wake up and claim our birthright. I wrote this book for one reason: to be a wake-up call that will challenge those who are committed to living and being more to tap their God-given power. There are ideas and strategies in this book to help you produce specific, measurable, long-lasting changes in yourself and others.

You see, I believe I know who you really are. I believe you and I must be kindred souls. Your desire to expand has brought you to this book. It is the invisible hand that guided you. I know that no matter where you are in your life, you want more! No matter how well you're already doing or how challenged you now may be, deep inside of you there lies a belief that your experience of life can and will be much greater than it already is. You are destined for your own unique form of greatness, whether it is as an outstanding professional, teacher, businessperson, mother, or father. Most importantly, you not only believe this, but you've taken action. You not only bought this book, but you're also doing something right now that unfortunately is unique—you're reading it! Statistics show that less than 10 percent of people who buy a book read past the first chapter. What an unbelievable waste! This is a giant book that you can use to produce giant results in your life. Clearly, you're the kind of person who won't cheat yourself by dabbling. By consistently taking advantage of each of the
chapters in this book, you'll ensure your ability to maximize your potential.

I challenge you not only to do whatever it takes to read this book in its entirety (unlike the masses who quit) but also to use what you learn in simple ways each day. This is the all-important step that's necessary for you to produce the results you're committed to.

HOW TO CREATE LASTING CHANGE

For changes to be of any true value, they've got to be lasting and consistent. We've all experienced change for a moment, only to feel let down and disappointed in the end. In fact, many people attempt change with a sense of fear and dread because unconsciously they believe the changes will only be temporary. A prime example of this is someone who needs to begin dieting, but finds himself putting it off, primarily because he unconsciously knows that whatever pain he endures in order to create the change will bring him only a short-term reward. For most of my life I've pursued what I consider to be the organizing principles of lasting change, and you'll learn many of these and how to utilize them in the pages that follow. But for now, I'd like to share with you three elementary principles of change that you and I can use immediately to change our lives. While these principles are simple, they are also extremely powerful when they are skillfully applied. These are the exact same changes that an individual must make in order to create personal change, that a company must make in order to maximize its potential, and that a country must make in order to carve out its place in the world. In
fact, as a world community these are the changes that we all must make to preserve the quality of life around the globe.

STEP ONE - Raise Your Standards

Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards. When people ask me what really changed my life eight years ago, I tell them that absolutely the most important thing was changing what I demanded of myself. I wrote down all the things I would no longer accept in my life, all the things I would no longer tolerate, and all the things that I aspired to becoming.

Think of the far-reaching consequences set in motion by men and women who raised their standards and acted in accordance with them, deciding they would tolerate no less. History chronicles the inspiring examples of people like Leonardo da Vinci, Abraham Lincoln, Helen Keller, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr., Rosa Parks, Albeit Einstein, Cesar Chavez, Soichiro Honda, and many others who took the magnificently powerful step of raising their standards. The same power that was available to them is available to you, if you have the courage to claim it. Changing an organization, a company, a country—or a world—begins with the simple step of changing yourself.

Source :

http://www.ia-bc.com/upload/359044. pdf

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Why extremely successful people swear by this 5-minute daily habit - Faisal Hoque

http://www.businessinsider.com/why-...le-swear-by-this-5-minute-daily-habit-2015-11

Successful entrepreneurs, authors, and innovators like Oprah Winfrey, Richard Branson, John Paul DeJoria, Tim Ferriss, and others all have one thing in common. To achieve more, to be happy, and to make a difference, they consciously practice gratitude.

John Paul DeJoria writes in a post : “For the most part, I can’t tell you how important it is to take those first five minutes [of the day] and be thankful for life.”

I couldn't agree more. The practice of gratitude often makes the difference between success and failure. I know this well from my own journey. Whether we like it or not, our lives are greatly dependent on external forces. No matter how self-motivated and driven we may be, a mix of luck, friends, colleagues, family, a higher power, or even total strangers is constantly influencing our daily lives. Gratitude is defined as the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. It stems from acknowledging what we have and the opportunity that lies ahead of us.

And when we are thankful for even the smallest moments, life tends to send more rewards our way. The act of gratefulness is not just a one-way message to the world. Gratefulness rebounds in all sorts of directions and often opens new doors. As someone once said, “gratitude is the open door to abundance.” Let’s explore why and how gratitude changes our lives.

Gratitude powers our present. It is a great feeling that, at this very moment in time, you have “enough.” Living in the present allows us to maximize returns out of every opportunity, and when we stop agonizing over the past and fretting about the future, we are able to make the blessings of our present count. "This a wonderful day. I've never seen this one before." — Maya Angelou When we appreciate the present, everything somehow seems that little bit brighter. There is nothing like living a life of curiosity. Try it. Right now, stop and think about something that is making this very moment worth living. Gratefulness is the fuel to our inner energy.

Gratitude makes us happy. Have you ever met an unhappy person who is grateful for their life or a happy person who isn’t grateful? “Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.” — Denis Waitley. Gratitude and optimism go hand in hand. It simultaneously sidelines negative feelings, such as envy, greed, and self-pity. By realising all the ways in which we are benefiting from the world we live in, our sense of self-worth increases. Dr. Robert Emmons, in his book "Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier" shows that gratitude can increase happiness levels by 25%. His conclusion is based on research involving thousands of people around the world.

Gratitude brings people closer. Showing our appreciation for others helps us to win friends and influence people. Being grateful to others makes them feel like their actions are more meaningful, and we all have a basic need to feel appreciated. “When eating bamboo sprouts, remember the man who planted them.” — Chinese Proverb Grateful people are more giving, less selfish, and make great companions. They are adept at empathizing with others. They are generous with people; they put the good of the collective first. And that brings people closer. In a world where everyone is beating his or her own drum, there is nothing more impressive than someone saying, “I couldn’t have done it on my own.” gratitude becomes a currency, and people flock to our side because we are happy to acknowledge their efforts.

Gratitude makes us healthier. An attitude of gratitude has been scientifically proven to improve both psychological and physical health. Much of these health benefits boil down to our behaviours and beliefs. Grateful people are less likely to compare themselves with others, they are happier with their “lot” in life. They are more resilient when life deals them a tough hand. They may have the same number of stressful situations as other people, but it is how they deal with these situations that makes the difference. “Take full account of the excellences which you possess, and in gratitude remember how you would hanker after them, if you had them not.” — Marcus Aurelius Grateful people are more likely to take care of their physical health. They sleep better and, according to WebMD, they even recover from illness faster. When we are grateful for what we have, it makes us want to take care of it that little bit more.

Gratitude improves our brain. Dr. Emiliana Simon-Thomas is the science director of the Greater Good Science Center. In an interview with Medical Daily, Simon-Thomas said, "In studies, after eight weeks of practice, brain scans of individuals who practice gratitude have stronger brain structure for social cognition and empathy, as well as the part of the brain that processes reward." A number of brain-imaging studies have discovered that the brain’s “reward center” lights up when we feel grateful. This is the same neural circuit that underlies primal drives like feeding and mating. When we consciously practice an attitude of gratitude, things don't just look better — they really do get better.
 

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Came across this on Quora. Helpful tip, especially for women.

(Edit : Understand from other articles that the light emitted can also be blue, green etc)

https://www.quora.com/

 

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In another post, I had made the following remark : It may not be related, but culturally, we are a society that is quite reverential to people in positions, elders etc (alike Japan, Korea). Many times, we will go along with with what (practices) are wrong, because we are brought up that way and the behaviour is ingrained in our psyche.

http://www.traderji.com/general-trading-investing-chat/98792-day-traders-lounge-96.html (post 955)

Being deferential to what is wrong, was the reason that Korean Airlines had the worst reliability record. Many of the airline crashes could have been avoided, but it the Korean culture, it is deemed inappropriate to criticize a senior, and hence even when the pilot commanding the plane was making fatal mistake, the chief officer or the flight engineer were not forceful enough to voice their opinion, leading to tragic loss of lives... in not one but quite a few instances.

Malcom Gladwell writes : Korean Air had more plane crashes than almost any other airline in the world for a period at the end of the 1990s. When we think of airline crashes, we think, Oh, they must have had old planes. They must have had badly trained pilots. No. What they were struggling with was a cultural legacy, that Korean culture is hierarchical. You are obliged to be deferential toward your elders and superiors in a way that would be unimaginable in the U.S.

http://blogs.wsj.com/middleseat/200...ture-cockpit-communication-and-plane-crashes/

The leading cause of airline accidents involving humans are miscommunication. And the reason for miscommunication is due respect for authority. It is deemed inappropriate or intolerable for a junior to correct a senior, which causes the co-pilot to use subdued language and avoid confrontation, thus masking the danger.

A few examples :

A Korean Air plane flying from Korea to Guam was going through bad weather and stormy clouds. The captain had committed the plane to visual landing, which meant that he had to be able to see the airport runway. The first officer was trying to warn the pilot that it may not be safe to do a visual approach without a backup plan for landing, in case the runway is not visible. However, as per the cultural norm, he only gave a hint driven by respect to authority and fear of upsetting their superior, the co-pilot ultimately contributed to the plane crash as he allowed the pilot to start a visual landing without an alternative.

Example #2

The 2nd example of inadequate communication between the first officer and the pilot is illustrated by the two pilots of an Air Florida plane. The first officer gently reminded the pilot of ice on the wings, and was not forceful to ask him to to de-ice the wings before takeoff. Had he done so, the crash would have been avoided. The co-pilot hinted 3 times at the possible dangers of not de-icing the wings, the pilot ignored his comments as trivial and unimportant.

Example #3 is absolutely shocking of the flight comming in from Columbia, which again has a deferential culture.

The Avianca flight to JFK was running out of fuel and the pilot advised the ATC (Air Traffic Control) that the plane did not have enough to fly. The ATC responded : I’m gonna bring you about fifteen miles northeast and then turn you back onto the approach. Is that OK with you and your fuel? Rather than saying it was a critical situation requiring immediate landing, the
First officer responded : I guess so. Thank you very much.

Five minutes later the plane crashed because of fuel exhaustion. Later, the JFK air traffic controller testified that he took the co-pilot’s words about “running out of fuel” as a passing comment, instead of emergency signal. Controllers hear such “running out of fuel” remarks all the time. In fact, it is absolutely normal for planes to be running low on fuel prior to landing. They are supposed to be lighter and not carry much fuel when they land.

The co-pilot had mentioned they were running out of fuel towards the end of the sentence, without saying the magic word “emergency”. The investigation concluded that the co-pilot’s cultural heritage of Columbia, which is a high power distance culture, was the main reason to feel intimidated by the dominant and snappy attitude of the JFK controller, and not communicate clearly the urgency of that alarming situation.

So what can they do? How can pilots improve communication and eliminate language problems causing fatal plane crashes? Airlines have started to combat mitigated speech. They make co-pilots address superiors by first name, teach them to be more assertive and get more comfortable with pushing back. In turn, main pilots try to be less dominant and operate as organizers, negotiators and facilitators, rather than as commanders, thus making it easier for first officers to speak up in order to correct any mistakes caused by the main pilot.

http://www.publicspeakingtoolkit.com/ethnic-theory-of-plane-crashes.html

What is so amazing about these stories, is the power of cultural conditioning that even in face of danger or death, is difficult to over-ride. Now globally, we have people blowing themselves up, willing to fight and die for a cause, because that is acceptable culturally, morally, by religion etc. And this happens only for one reason - That people have a strong (even if wrong) sense of beliefs of what is right or wrong. They have stopped asking questions. They limit themselves to experiences and close the doors to new ones. The point here is that it is difficult to outgrow and free ourselves and our minds out of conditioning that is ingrained in our psyche. And only when we are open and able to question everything, will be able to move out of the box and see the world in a different light.
 

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