The words the thoughts create, we ought to be careful of ,, which are the road blocks for successful trades.
Should- Phrases include: “The market should have” and “I should have”. Those phrases are often used to socialize losses. They are a strong signal something is off. They should be used to aid one in correcting his/her vision , not to make one feel better.
Must- Phrases include: “The market must…”, “I must make money”, or “I must trade”. The market does not have to do anything and either do you,or me . When we use the word “must” it is hardly ever from a position of strength. The market knows when we are desperate and will take full advantage of you and me . Keeping our expenses as low as possible will make it easier to not make those statements.
Will- Phrases include: “The market will..” and “I will make money”. Once again the market does not like to be told what to do. It is the bratty human screaming at the tops of her /his lungs. The word “will” relaxes your mind, similar to “should”, people use it to be lazy instead of a dark background in an otherwise light picture. We can do everything right and still lose money. The very reason why trading is so effective at diminishing confidence.
Won’t- Phrases include: “The market won’t…” or “I won’t make money”. Notice a theme here? We are part of the market, we are not the market. The market is a one way walkie talkie, you listen, it talks.
Can’t- Phrases include: “The market can’t..” or “I can’t…” or “I can’t lose anymore”. Yes the market can, go look at a chart. Go look at a Fed day or about any chart from 2008. Not only can it happen, it does happen. There are no more once in a lifetime moves in the market. There are and always have been life changing moves. No one ever said trading was easy but at least in the case of futures someone is taking your money. If you think you can’t, you probably wont. The market will take every penny you have. If can take every penny you put at risk. Fix the problem, before you run out of money and then it is too late.
Impossible- Phrase includes: “It is impossible to make money”. Once again someone, somewhere is making money. It may not end up being an efficient use of my time or capital but it is possible. I am substituting an excuse for execution.
Sense- Phrase includes: “The market does not make sense”. Many fortunes are made in an illogical market. Logic is a bigger driver than risk controls for most people. It is easier to ignore our P/L when we can see or touch the catalysis. For example, it is cold buy natural gas. By the time you change your view or are forced to change, the market flips. Logic will eventually prevail, with or without you.